Have you have been shooting? A gun? An arrow? A nerf gun? A paper at a trash can? I am sure at some point you have aimed at something. My question is what do you do when you missed? Do you start looking at where the paper or the arrow landed? Most people do. They start looking at how they missed, how they messed up. That's what most of us do. We start focusing on how big of a failure we are. "Look, I aimed at that target and hit that tree. I can't believe I hit that tree. That tree is so big, that must be why I missed the can. The can is so small. Look at the tree! It's so big!"
Isn't this what we do in life? "I planned to eat good all week. I messed up! Look at the food in my kitchen (at the party). There is no way I could stay away from it."
"I planned on working out all week but look at the pile of work I had to do!"
Where is the focus? If you focus on how you messed up, that becomes your focus. If there was a a can a little way away from the big tree, and you miss and hit the tree, what becomes your focus? The tree! If the tree becomes your focus, what will you hit? The tree!
In life if you are focusing on your failures, it becomes the tree in the yard. That tree is now the big presence that has commanded your attention. If you quit focusing on your target in the first place, then the miss becomes your target.
What does this mean? If you focus on your "failures", then that becomes your new focus. Meaning this will become your new goal. You may not want it to be your goal, but if that is what you focus on, it becomes your goal.
Do you want to keep focusing on your failures? No you want to focus on your desires! Stop looking at how you messed up and start focusing on where you want to be and as long as you keep your target, every time you fire, you will get closer and closer. It is not a game of perfection, but of keeping your focus and practice! Keep practicing!
Sunday, March 16, 2014
Sunday, January 5, 2014
Post New Years Excitement!
New Years has come and gone and I bet you made a new years resolution. That's great, if it lasts for more than 3 weeks. This is the common amount of time that people will go full force into their new goals and then lose steam and stop. There are many different reasons for the stop, however, approximately 90% of people who set a goal in the new year will never see it through.
My suggestion, take a step back and look at your goal. Most of us set a goal that is grand and exciting! We expect to get to this goal quickly and awesomely (not sure this is a word but it works for what I am trying to get across!). We have these visions of ourselves as superhero's sweeping into our new status of awesomeness where we totally shock and awe those around us. They stand back and marvel at how awesome we are to have achieved so much in such a short time.
In our minds we see the whole episode unfold and then when in real life it doesn't quite play out like we thought it would, we get frustrated and stop. Look, I say this all the time, if it was easy, everyone would do it and then what would separate the ones that make their dreams a reality from the ones who fall asleep in class? Consistency.
If you have a goal, establish right away that it is going to take time. Even if some how you are able to defy normal human ability and achieve your goal quickly, it is going to take time and consistency to maintain. Otherwise you are just jumping around without a bra! (you ladies know what I am talking about) The motion is there but it lacks support. In the end things move in ways you didn't intend and the end result is less than desirable.
Take the time to gain support. Build the habits that will help you get where you are going and stay there. These goals you have can be achieved! However, you must understand anything worth having is worth working for. It will take time and support to build the habits that will allow you to achieve and maintain these goals. Surround yourself with people who support, not hinder your goals. Set small achievable goals that you take the time to celebrate a long the way. Rid yourself of all or nothing thinking. If this is where you want to go, don't plan on changing directions once you get there. It will just take you back where you started.
Is is easy? Oh no! But again, anything worth having is worth working for otherwise you don't respect it. If everyone could just take a Lamborghini then they wouldn't be desirable. And if everyone could have a fit and healthy body, there would be no respect and admiration for those who do. It really isn't hard, it is simply consistency. Every day, put one foot in front of the other, don't feel sorry for yourself and don't look back. You know where that path leads. Only look forward and go get it! If you need support, I am here for you!
Sarah Pawlicki
My suggestion, take a step back and look at your goal. Most of us set a goal that is grand and exciting! We expect to get to this goal quickly and awesomely (not sure this is a word but it works for what I am trying to get across!). We have these visions of ourselves as superhero's sweeping into our new status of awesomeness where we totally shock and awe those around us. They stand back and marvel at how awesome we are to have achieved so much in such a short time.
In our minds we see the whole episode unfold and then when in real life it doesn't quite play out like we thought it would, we get frustrated and stop. Look, I say this all the time, if it was easy, everyone would do it and then what would separate the ones that make their dreams a reality from the ones who fall asleep in class? Consistency.
If you have a goal, establish right away that it is going to take time. Even if some how you are able to defy normal human ability and achieve your goal quickly, it is going to take time and consistency to maintain. Otherwise you are just jumping around without a bra! (you ladies know what I am talking about) The motion is there but it lacks support. In the end things move in ways you didn't intend and the end result is less than desirable.
Take the time to gain support. Build the habits that will help you get where you are going and stay there. These goals you have can be achieved! However, you must understand anything worth having is worth working for. It will take time and support to build the habits that will allow you to achieve and maintain these goals. Surround yourself with people who support, not hinder your goals. Set small achievable goals that you take the time to celebrate a long the way. Rid yourself of all or nothing thinking. If this is where you want to go, don't plan on changing directions once you get there. It will just take you back where you started.
Is is easy? Oh no! But again, anything worth having is worth working for otherwise you don't respect it. If everyone could just take a Lamborghini then they wouldn't be desirable. And if everyone could have a fit and healthy body, there would be no respect and admiration for those who do. It really isn't hard, it is simply consistency. Every day, put one foot in front of the other, don't feel sorry for yourself and don't look back. You know where that path leads. Only look forward and go get it! If you need support, I am here for you!
Sarah Pawlicki
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